tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post4749562195664665877..comments2023-09-28T05:39:23.009-07:00Comments on house of peanut: I want it all, and I want it nowAnandihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18158474177264732273noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-66259983255670848382013-03-14T22:22:29.337-07:002013-03-14T22:22:29.337-07:00I think that's the key - figuring out if you&#...I think that's the key - figuring out if you're mostly happy doing what you're doing. Which is awesome that you are. Obviously there are going to be days that are sucky, but I think if *most* days you're happy with your situation, it's probably the right one.<br /><br />Our field is probably a little easier to "tag in/tag out" than yours, though.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-64119917035882445402013-03-14T22:20:53.567-07:002013-03-14T22:20:53.567-07:00Yeah, Task Rabbit just intrigues me, and I've ...Yeah, Task Rabbit just intrigues me, and I've seen things that actually pay a reasonable rate (like $60 to set up a fairly simple spreadsheet, etc) rather than the $8/hour stupid stuff.<br /><br />ELance is another one that has some ridiculously low rates. but I'm hoping somewhere in there may be some reasonable projects.<br /><br />I am definitely pursuing my contacts, but it's still a hard sell for the time requirements I have. Still, I'm hopeful that there's work out there :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-16311068463171152392013-03-14T22:18:22.237-07:002013-03-14T22:18:22.237-07:00Good luck with your search!!Good luck with your search!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-50267396200137221862013-03-14T22:18:01.325-07:002013-03-14T22:18:01.325-07:00Thanks for the vote of confidence :) I definitely...Thanks for the vote of confidence :) I definitely agree that a person needs something else other than "wiping butts" :) but I think that can come from a lot of different sources, even serious hobbies. (even better if you can find someone to pay you for it!)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-87613248220425460762013-03-14T22:16:22.289-07:002013-03-14T22:16:22.289-07:00Yes, to lunch still! I do notice that at T's p...Yes, to lunch still! I do notice that at T's preschool a few of the kids are picked up by a nanny. But then you're paying for both, unless you can find a nanny to work part-time.<br /><br />I have a few weeks to find another job within the company but with the requirements I have (remote, part-time and off-hours) it's unlikely I'll be able to find someone willing to use a headcount for it. So in mid April, I'll probably end up quitting...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-69836681920654652152013-03-14T22:14:49.870-07:002013-03-14T22:14:49.870-07:00No, thankfully. The leave is not required to be p...No, thankfully. The leave is not required to be paid back, though I suppose it might vary by company since each business handles it differently.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-66537297981767557202013-03-14T22:13:59.818-07:002013-03-14T22:13:59.818-07:00I love this comparison to the "American Dream...I love this comparison to the "American Dream" - it's perfect. And yes, we definitely enjoyed our time when TJ was off - doing fun things during the week when it's quieter is *awesome*.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-35550835510752715772013-03-14T12:52:08.316-07:002013-03-14T12:52:08.316-07:00Exciting changes ahead. Whatever works for YOU and...Exciting changes ahead. Whatever works for YOU and your family is the only "all" that matters. I firmly believe the idea of "having it all" is really about having ALL THE CHOICES. I kind of envy how you and TJ are fluidly moving through different permutations, guided by your priorities. (I envy the flexibility in your career choices and the willingness from both parties to take advantage, that is). Though, while I daydream on my most hectic days of staying home part-time, I'm actually very happy where I am, doing interesting work, raising interesting kids---what more do I want?anahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18320182732889825712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-45397808466814208312013-03-14T06:16:42.210-07:002013-03-14T06:16:42.210-07:00If you're looking for remote/flex work I think...If you're looking for remote/flex work I think you can probably do much better per hour than anything you're going to find on Task Rabbit. You could try Flex Jobs and Mom Corps. But consulting for your current employer and other tech companies you have contacts with is likely the most efficient option for getting a good rate that recognizes your skills and expertise. Laura Vanderkamhttp://www.lauravanderkam.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-8787641843110498082013-03-13T11:19:47.938-07:002013-03-13T11:19:47.938-07:00I've always wanted a balance life, with or wit...I've always wanted a balance life, with or without kids. I did not aspire to management although it is important for me to have a fairly interesting job and projects at work. For me, flexibility is key. I don't have flexibility officially but I'm fortunate that my boss is fairly understanding about childcare needs and doctor appointments.oilandgarlichttp://oilandgarlic.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-25366720798001432652013-03-13T05:09:27.173-07:002013-03-13T05:09:27.173-07:00That's exciting news about your job changes - ...That's exciting news about your job changes - both you and TJ! Sounds like it is going to be a fun adventure. I'm a flexible working-at-home mom too and it's great - my very definition of balance. Especially now that the kids are all in school (my youngest is just mornings, but still) - I can work for a few hours a day, then be a mom for the rest of the time. Loving it - hope you will too!Lynnhttp://diaryofaturtlehead.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-61020971731870913752013-03-13T00:35:00.586-07:002013-03-13T00:35:00.586-07:00I always find these kind of discussions interestin...I always find these kind of discussions interesting. I have been fortunate enough to be able to stay at home with Miss Three *simply* by moving country. I am now ready for there to be more in my life but I know that doesn't include 40 hours plus at work. It does mean me working in an industry other than my first choice and will mean irregular income at best. I think I am not looking for it all but happiness for my family as a whole. Good luck woth your new arrangements.Claire Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12657778540760045412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-38456616592708877752013-03-13T00:09:32.405-07:002013-03-13T00:09:32.405-07:00I totally agree with your Tater tot God comment. T...I totally agree with your Tater tot God comment. That was hilarious!!!<br /><br />I also read the Lehman Brother CFO's article last night, and its true, work drains your battery. And with two kids, you really have to prioritize a lot in life. But not working at all is not the best option either. I dont think we are better mothers just because we dedicate 24 hours to our kids. That's a whole lot of butt wiping right there. Something in between- where you work flexi hours would be so awesome. You should totally start your own small business. I keep getting ideas for myself, but I never follow through- since I am not a great entrepreneur myself. But I can totally see you doing it :)<br /><br />Smithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08001619927116290061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-70510677378031155032013-03-12T22:50:36.540-07:002013-03-12T22:50:36.540-07:00Interesting thoughtsInteresting thoughtsAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17107571402120226958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-83796821384564995972013-03-12T20:11:18.715-07:002013-03-12T20:11:18.715-07:00I don't know! No clue! One day I'll figure...I don't know! No clue! One day I'll figure it out. Shalinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13839666371535550446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-67048143986245646882013-03-12T15:46:09.857-07:002013-03-12T15:46:09.857-07:00I think "having it all" is defined uniqu...I think "having it all" is defined uniquely and specifically by the individual. I'm not a mom, unless you count the furry beast that I live with, and yet I feel like I have it all. I have my crafts, a job I love, a family who supports me, and an adventurous spirit that's coming back. Jenn from WAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02751954970298044506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-57310932261068152882013-03-12T12:47:07.062-07:002013-03-12T12:47:07.062-07:00Oh my goodness, so many changes going on for you! ...Oh my goodness, so many changes going on for you! First of all, congrats on the job shift! Does this mean you are leaving MS but will get to come back at some point? Can we still go to lunch? lol. My husband and I need to have this same coversation for when the time comes for me to return to work in the fall...Sky will be in half day preschool too so it pretty much means one of us will have to be there!!Emily Peckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12967233476054481334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-18568009665529180422013-03-12T12:31:45.753-07:002013-03-12T12:31:45.753-07:00oooh yes, I've been reading most of those post...oooh yes, I've been reading most of those posts too and I'm itching to discuss it all with my colleague but we're too busy working (oh, the irony!).<br /><br />Congrats to TJ on his new job. How do you feel?<br /><br />BTW, do you have to go back to resign? Here in SA, we have to work in the number of months they paid us for if we want to resign. So typically 4 months maternity leave = 4 months when you get back, unless you feel like paying their money back!Marcia (123 blog)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15581613927187600748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-89695509197184629982013-03-12T11:46:52.246-07:002013-03-12T11:46:52.246-07:00To me, having it all means being happy with what I...To me, having it all means being happy with what I have. I was previously married and lived a very hectic life with 2 kids that had to be looked after while I commuted to London. Whilst commuting I was always doing something creative. One of my first loves was hand stitched quilting. It was to the point that many of my fellow commuters would actually look over my shoulder to see how far I'd come in my project. (word to the wise, London commuters never make eye contact!) Strange! Anyhow, I had aspirations and thought that I could make my creative spirit work for the family and our coffers. My other half did not. Many years later and I now have a profit making business doing what I love to do and I'm married to a lovely a lovely man who supports me in my endeavors. We only have one car but I cycle. We don't have the fanciest of houses but I love it. I'm also home to get the kids off of the bus. My eldest daughter has just completed her degree in fashion design and I couldn't be more proud! She's also looking to use her sewing and design skills to make dresses for little girls who partake in dancing competitions. Bleh, sorry to pour my life out to you all! Anandi, sorry to make such a long post but this is something I've very passionate about.Leah Lintzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13273313394733278225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-21539874684855093752013-03-12T11:30:03.451-07:002013-03-12T11:30:03.451-07:00"Having it all" is roughly the same as &..."Having it all" is roughly the same as "living the American Dream." A lot of people think that involves something specific, applicable to everyone, but it's really individual. It's the freedom to pursue happiness. What makes me happy isn't necessarily what is going to make anyone else happy. I want the time and money to make meaningful memories with my friends and family. Work is a means to that end, not an end in itself. I try to make a virtue of necessity in that I found work I enjoy, but if I were independently wealthy tomorrow, I would spend a lot less time designing control systems and a lot more time brewing beer and taking my kids to museums and the like.Bryce H. Elliotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00645082458109994277noreply@blogger.com