tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post5071281522965198195..comments2023-09-28T05:39:23.009-07:00Comments on house of peanut: Three bits of parenting advice that changed my lifeAnandihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18158474177264732273noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-84124779113545696222013-10-28T14:53:13.563-07:002013-10-28T14:53:13.563-07:00Yes, to raising capable adults, though I would *al...Yes, to raising capable adults, though I would *also* like them to think they had a happy childhood too :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-53392688922129990562013-10-26T20:58:38.342-07:002013-10-26T20:58:38.342-07:00Somewhere along the way I heard that my job as a p...Somewhere along the way I heard that my job as a parent is to raise well-adjusted, capable, joyful adults, not to create well-behaved or happy kids. That one turned things on their ear for me a bit. I'd done a lot of child care, and child care is very much about getting kids to behave in a certain way. Changing that focus has changed a lot about my parenting.<br /><br />Also: WORD on the giving-them-space-to-sleep thing. I got talked into the whole idea that if I provided her with dark and quiet every time, she would never learn to just sleep anywhere and that would be so much better. So when she was 3 weeks, I quit my quiet-dark-soothing routine for a day and she went 13 HOURS without sleeping and was an absolute total utter basket case. And I said to hell with that noise and went back to my creating-a-routine routine and never looked back. :) wrnglrjanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17538990108981244469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-27776650338381023142013-10-26T05:19:24.400-07:002013-10-26T05:19:24.400-07:00I love this post! Three solid gold nuggets, that&#...I love this post! Three solid gold nuggets, that's for sure. I'll be bookmarking it for advice-giving to my younger sisters.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07478446000443341527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-45292618818214224582013-10-25T14:22:16.288-07:002013-10-25T14:22:16.288-07:00Yeah, I love picking up things to try from other p...Yeah, I love picking up things to try from other people. Some will work for T, and some won't, but they're often ideas I never would have even thought about.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-87227412278566566302013-10-25T14:21:06.080-07:002013-10-25T14:21:06.080-07:00I bet! I'm choosing not to think about that n...I bet! I'm choosing not to think about that now :DAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-37779921774970666792013-10-25T14:20:43.790-07:002013-10-25T14:20:43.790-07:00Ooh, good to know. One of the takeaways I got fro...Ooh, good to know. One of the takeaways I got from reading "Siblings Without Rivalry" was the idea that you love each kid *differently* for *who* they are - it's not an "amount" or "equal" thing.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-21928371597547522972013-10-25T14:19:40.013-07:002013-10-25T14:19:40.013-07:00Congratulations and good luck! You will definitel...Congratulations and good luck! You will definitely learn a lot "on the job"!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-18378633489809065232013-10-25T14:19:09.083-07:002013-10-25T14:19:09.083-07:00So, you want to have babies with me? ;) Haha. T...So, you want to have babies with me? ;) Haha. Thank you. Your compliments mean a lot, *especially* since you don't have kids. I want to raise mine to be likeable, among other things!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-3278724269415969742013-10-25T14:18:17.406-07:002013-10-25T14:18:17.406-07:00YES! This is an excellent one too. It's ok t...YES! This is an excellent one too. It's ok to walk away and talk about it when you're not so angry.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-78040970653770573992013-10-25T10:12:06.291-07:002013-10-25T10:12:06.291-07:00Great advice for parents of younger kids, mine are...Great advice for parents of younger kids, mine are grown now and come with a whole new set of problems lolFleursbydesignhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17483268753980182467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-89795791241649458942013-10-25T10:02:54.877-07:002013-10-25T10:02:54.877-07:00These are so helpful! I'm expecting my first i...These are so helpful! I'm expecting my first in January, and I can use all the advice I can get. :) Thanks for sharing!Elizabeth Cooperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17147067623636795683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-90180347142101650382013-10-25T09:32:29.776-07:002013-10-25T09:32:29.776-07:00Ive learned that if I was going to have kids, I wo...Ive learned that if I was going to have kids, I would want you to be there mom. Wait that doesn't sound right. What I mean is, you are awesome. I love how you so project managerlike approach things and treat your little girls like they're people not little people. Jenn from WAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02751954970298044506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-88120773501073461592013-10-25T06:48:28.889-07:002013-10-25T06:48:28.889-07:00Very VERY interesting ! My own best advice (from m...Very VERY interesting ! My own best advice (from my sister) was to leave the room if I m really too upset/angry.Isbahahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618016656008719367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-87299203165674281242013-10-24T22:34:15.414-07:002013-10-24T22:34:15.414-07:00Fair Isn't Equal - this is true. even now, whe...Fair Isn't Equal - this is true. even now, when my girls are 13 and 11 :)Sasha Farinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01179507816409904797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-11660726042917999692013-10-24T15:28:01.229-07:002013-10-24T15:28:01.229-07:00Thanks Unknown Friend :)Thanks Unknown Friend :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-34349629676347296832013-10-24T15:23:29.822-07:002013-10-24T15:23:29.822-07:00Thanks for the shout out! Of course, I learned all...Thanks for the shout out! Of course, I learned all those things from experienced parents themselves. We have to stick together and help (rather than judge each other), right?Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09293481826338148886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11927979.post-19970105802310801952013-10-24T15:08:54.975-07:002013-10-24T15:08:54.975-07:00I feel like it is the little things. Like, just s...I feel like it is the little things. Like, just seeing where other kids are helps me. You wrote about how T gets herself ready in the mornings. Before it was always a power struggle here but we put Avunash in charge of the routine himself and it made a world of difference. Nirupamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06578044687180977611noreply@blogger.com