I'm currently trying to resolve an issue at work that requires me to advocate for myself. Since it's not sorted out yet, I won't post details, but it's making me think about that uneasy, uncomfortable feeling I get when I don't do what's expected of me.
I've always been a rule follower. I don't know if that comes from my personality of not being much of a risk taker, or the fact that I'm Asian American and was raised to respect authoritay. Maybe it's a combination of both, plus the need to please and to be good that I think girls and women are pressured into. For whatever reason, deep down in my psyche, it makes me REALLY uncomfortable to rock the boat.
I've run into this feeling a lot in my life, because sometimes my need to do things differently outweighs my discomfort from rocking the boat. And I can't recall a time where I regretted taking action - in fact, doing so often resulted in a great outcome.
Like negotiating with my company when I got my offer from them back in 2002. The offer was great: no travel, a sizable pay raise, better benefits, relocation. So I figured I should just be happy with what I got, right? Add to this the fact that at my previous company, I just took the offer they gave me. It didn't even occur to me to ask for more, since they were going to pay me *much* more than I was making as a lowly grad student. Sigh.
Wouldn't I seem "greedy" and "ungrateful" asking for more? A friend of mine pointed out that all future raises and bonuses would be based on my salary, and thus it would be advantageous to start as high as I could. So I put on my big girl pants, wrote out what I wanted, practiced it a million times, held my breath and called my recruiter.
And from that short conversation, I got: an additional cash allowance for moving Peanut up to Seattle, some more stock options (ah, those were the days!), an increase to my signing bonus, and a little more salary. The discomfort? Totally worth it and my career has reaped the benefits.
So the next few times I had to do this, it got easier. Now I wouldn't even think of taking a new offer without negotiating for a little more. Why waste all that good leverage? ;)
But, that confidence still doesn't translate into other situations where I need to advocate for myself. I think old habits die hard. So last week when I had to approach my bosses about reducing my work schedule because I was at a breaking point, I fretted about it. Would they think I was a flake? Not worth the hassle? A waste of a team member? It would appear not, since they granted my request immediately. Like, 5 minutes after I started talking. We didn't even get around to reviewing the fancy written proposal I put together.
I think this is something that takes practice. In the same bucket is learning to say 'No' to things that aren't important and relevant to my goals and priorities. A couple of times folks at work wanted to set up time with me to chat about something I had posted on a social mailing list. Sometimes I'm ok with this, when my schedule is more free, or on a day when I'm home and can bring BabyT along. But a lot of times, I've just had to decline and tell them I'll answer specific questions via email.
And once, a coworker who I respect highly asked me to consider a volunteer opportunity outside of work for a very worthy cause. It sounded great, but just the idea of adding another thing to my packed schedule made my heart race. I was able to decline, hopefully gracefully. She still speaks to me, so I assume it was cool :).
Back to the pending work issue. This issue means I'll miss a deadline. And that in itself bugs me. It bugged me all night last night when I was trying to figure out how to move forward. But on my commute into work (all 15 minutes that included stops at Starbucks and the post office), I formulated a plan: check w/ my manager on my course of action, set up a necessary meeting, and then let the people who manage the deadline know that I wasn't going to make it. I sorted all those things out, and felt... peace. My situation isn't resolved, but now it's out of my hands. The right "next action" meeting is set up, I got no response about missing the deadline (in this case I'm going to assume no news = ok news) and my manager's got my back.
What I hope to teach my daughter is that she isn't expected to please everyone else. I want her to have the confidence to do what SHE wants in life, not what people expect her to do. And man is that hard, already, and she's not even 2.
We start with the small things now - if she doesn't want to go to someone, she doesn't have to. If she doesn't answer questions other people ask her, that's cool. One of the most interesting and influential parenting books I've read is Naomi Aldort's "Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves". Yes, it's as hippie as it sounds but really brilliant in making me think differently.
In this book, she addresses those exact things. And in fact, she believes even older children shouldn't have to answer intrusive adult questions if they don't want to talk. That surprised me a little, given how important it was when I was a kid, to be polite and respectful to adults and answer the litany of questions that were inevitable, though tiresome. (How old are you? What grade are you in? What's your favorite subject? blah blah blah.)
So it really makes me think about what it means to be "polite" and where I want those boundaries to be when I'm raising T. I definitely don't want her to be deliberately hurtful to people, but I don't want her to feel *responsible* for other peoples' feelings either. I want her to be comfortable with who she is and chase her dreams and stand up for herself and minimize worrying about what other people think or gasp! what's "acceptable" or "expected" in our culture. I'm not sure how to get there, but we'll start with the small stuff.
I wonder if that will make it easier for her to negotiate a good starting salary. Heh, I guess I'll find out in 20 years or so...
Thursday, September 08, 2011
Monday, September 05, 2011
handcrafted life plan, the 3rd installment
Ahhh, the Las Vegas trip was just what I needed. Sun (ok, maybe too much of that). Adult beverages. Fancy food and In N Out burger. Relaxed vacation time with TJ. No worries about scheduling activities before naptime or bedtime. Gambling (yay!). Winning (more yay!).
BabyT had a GREAT time with my parents and remembered we were "on pacation" and seemed to be cool with that. We were really happy and energized to see her after several days. Win-win.
In my Inbox today was a newsletter from the I Will Teach You to be Rich blog. In my binge consumption of personal productivity blogs, I started reading this one again and subscribed to his newsletter. It's mostly about personal finance and increasing your wealth but has some good content on the psychology of why it's so hard to "just do it", whatever that right thing is, be it saving money, losing weight, or figuring out how to quit your day job and follow your passion.
Well, today's newsletter was about some short exercises you could do to focus on a goal for the next 12 months. How freakin' timely!
I decided to tackle the weight loss thing first because of all the brain space I've been using for it, when I could be using that space and computing power for something much more interesting.
I've already gotten started by following the "new" Atkins eating plan for the past 2 months, drastically reducing my carb intake (with some slip ups, but not nearly as many as I expected). That's a post topic on its own so I won't go into details now.
The goal setting exercise, originally written by Susan Su, had a series of questions designed to be answered as specifically as possible about the vision you have for your life after achieving your goal. Of course this visualization technique isn't new, but I liked the short question format, and the fact that the exercise was designed to last about 20 minutes so I couldn't get caught up in writing up the document perfectly or formatting, or stupid stuff like that. Using those answers, I boiled down my goal into a concise statement that I'm supposed to post in places where I'll see it often.
So here it is. My goal by Labor Day 2012 is this:
If you're interested in setting your own weight loss 12 month goal, here are the questions I used, which I revised from Susan & IWT's financially-worded ones.
In a year:
My plan, a la ZenHabits, is to pick one habit to alter each month. I haven't mapped out the 12 months yet, but the first month was an easy choice for me - track my carb intake and weight each day.
I HATE tracking stuff, and this is where I go off the rails, but I've found that when I don't track, I don't pay attention. Or I guesstimate... poorly. The online tracker I use is pretty simple and doesn't have that much overhead. So I've got to figure out how to remember to do this. If I actually track as per Atkins plan requirements, I can figure out how many carbs I can eat and still lose weight. And I'm a girl who loves those carbs, so really, it's in my best interest to keep track.
So there it is. One easy-to-define, but hard-to-execute goal for the next year. Wish me luck.
BabyT had a GREAT time with my parents and remembered we were "on pacation" and seemed to be cool with that. We were really happy and energized to see her after several days. Win-win.
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| Photo by angietorres on Flickr |
In my Inbox today was a newsletter from the I Will Teach You to be Rich blog. In my binge consumption of personal productivity blogs, I started reading this one again and subscribed to his newsletter. It's mostly about personal finance and increasing your wealth but has some good content on the psychology of why it's so hard to "just do it", whatever that right thing is, be it saving money, losing weight, or figuring out how to quit your day job and follow your passion.
Well, today's newsletter was about some short exercises you could do to focus on a goal for the next 12 months. How freakin' timely!
I decided to tackle the weight loss thing first because of all the brain space I've been using for it, when I could be using that space and computing power for something much more interesting.
I've already gotten started by following the "new" Atkins eating plan for the past 2 months, drastically reducing my carb intake (with some slip ups, but not nearly as many as I expected). That's a post topic on its own so I won't go into details now.
The goal setting exercise, originally written by Susan Su, had a series of questions designed to be answered as specifically as possible about the vision you have for your life after achieving your goal. Of course this visualization technique isn't new, but I liked the short question format, and the fact that the exercise was designed to last about 20 minutes so I couldn't get caught up in writing up the document perfectly or formatting, or stupid stuff like that. Using those answers, I boiled down my goal into a concise statement that I'm supposed to post in places where I'll see it often.
So here it is. My goal by Labor Day 2012 is this:
- Body weight of 128-136 lbs via
- Atkins/low-carb eating plan and
- At least 15 min of exercise daily
If you're interested in setting your own weight loss 12 month goal, here are the questions I used, which I revised from Susan & IWT's financially-worded ones.
In a year:
- What will I weigh? (you could also use a different metric here, like BMI or body fat %)
- What will I look like and what will I wear? (this is a HUGE motivator for me. I love clothes. be specific about sizes, styles, stores, etc.)
- How much exercise will I be doing?
- What will I be eating?
- How will I feel?
- What will my health be like? (name specific health measurements or conditions here)
- What will my family and friends think?
- What does my Tuesday look like? (pick a working day for this)
- What does my Saturday look like? (pick a weekend/non-working day)
My plan, a la ZenHabits, is to pick one habit to alter each month. I haven't mapped out the 12 months yet, but the first month was an easy choice for me - track my carb intake and weight each day.
I HATE tracking stuff, and this is where I go off the rails, but I've found that when I don't track, I don't pay attention. Or I guesstimate... poorly. The online tracker I use is pretty simple and doesn't have that much overhead. So I've got to figure out how to remember to do this. If I actually track as per Atkins plan requirements, I can figure out how many carbs I can eat and still lose weight. And I'm a girl who loves those carbs, so really, it's in my best interest to keep track.
So there it is. One easy-to-define, but hard-to-execute goal for the next year. Wish me luck.
Friday, September 02, 2011
Evening plane rises up from the runway
I was really excited about in flight wireless Internet access, but the reality is that it's pretty slow. Slow is better than nothing, I guess. I am super excited to be on my way to Las Vegas to meet my fabulous husband for our first trip without Miss Baby. She is hanging out with my parents this weekend, and pretty much pushed me out the door as soon as they showed up. So life is good.
I hate pretty much everything about air travel. It irks me that the airlines don't realize that squishing so many people into such a tiny space is fundamentally opposed to the American culture's concept of personal space. I hate it when the person sitting next to me is *touching* me, just by sheer virtue of sitting there, unless that person is related to me. And even then I don't love it, but can deal. This is one of those times - packed flight, large middle seat person keeps shifting around and reminding me that I have nowhere else to go without her touching me. Yuck yuck yuck.
But it's nice to be alone with my thoughts (and the blog, of course) and not have that constant stress of trying to keep an almost-2-year old from pitching a fit or kicking the seat in front of her.
It takes me back to the 3.5 years I spent working for Deloitte Consulting, traveling *every week*. Most of that time was before 9/11 and all the TSA craziness, and I got out just about when it became unbearable. I got really good at traveling - packing light, organizing my laptop bag to optimize for the security check, not checking bags, and doing everything online.
Since then, I can probably count on 2 hands the number of plane trips I've taken. TJ's even less of a fan of air travel than I am, so our vacations are usually road trips. Both of us are serious homebodies, so we tend to burn vacation just staying home for a day or two throughout the year. And I'm cool with that.
In preparation for the Mondo Beyondo class I'm taking, I've been reading other people's posted "life dreams" lists online. Most of them involve extensive traveling adventures. I'm pretty sure mine won't. There are only two trips I MUST do sometime - spend at least 2 weeks in Ireland, and go to the Christmas Market in Munich, Germany.
I'm just not an adventurous soul. I'm definitely not a "backpack across xxx continent and see 10 countries" kind of girl. I'm more of a "find the nearest Four Seasons and park there for a week" traveler. I'm sure readers of the Lonely Planet guides are appalled by this. It's not that I don't have curiosity about the world around me. I do, but just not enough to get out of my comfy home to go see it.
So I mostly end up traveling because an opportunity is presented to me, not because I seek it out. My parents nearly had to force me to go on a trip to France with my high school French class. I just wasn't all that excited about leaving my house, and the known quantity of summer vacation. I'm glad I went, if only because I found out that I might want to go back and see more of the Louvre, and maybe Switzerland some day.
I did learn that I HATE group tours with a flaming passion. I don't want someone else to set my itinerary for me, or tell me how long I can spend at a particular place. I also hate having a packed agenda of sightseeing. That's not relaxing at all. I don't want to check off all the boxes to say I saw all the major attractions. It's not my thing. I'd rather wander around the city on my own pace, see one or two of the main things, and eat the yummy food.
So this is precisely what I did when I was given the opportunity to go to Munich Germany for work in 2003. I spent a week there, but only had work events for 3 days. I spent time napping in my really nice hotel, walked around the small town near the hotel, took the train into the big city a couple of times, did a crapload of shopping at H&M (which wasn't on the West Coast at that time), and ate a LOT of sausages in different shapes and sizes. I practiced my (crappy) German, and got answered in perfect English by the nice and patient people that I met. I saw the Olympic park, the BMW museum, a toy museum, and a really old church in the center of the city. If there were other things I was *supposed* to see, I didn't. It was relaxed, and I really felt like I got a feel for the place. I also realized I dig traveling by myself. Except for when I got on the wrong Express train and just narrowly avoided ending up hundreds of miles from my hotel. (My destination was the last stop before a long ride to some other part of Germany. Yikes.)
In that same job at Microsoft, I also got to travel to Singapore, which I like to call the Las Vegas version of Asia. It's clean and sanitized for your protection. Not being a "get your hands dirty" kind of traveler, I loved it. I'd totally go back there.
So yeah, I'm no world traveler, and I'm cool with that. We may expand our horizons a bit more when BabyT is old enough to remember our trips, but I'm guessing we won't be the "pull kid out of school and travel the world for a year" family.
But right now, I'm ready for Las Vegas, where we'll get to see fake New York, fake Paris, and fake Venice. Hooray!
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| Photo by digitonin on Flickr |
I hate pretty much everything about air travel. It irks me that the airlines don't realize that squishing so many people into such a tiny space is fundamentally opposed to the American culture's concept of personal space. I hate it when the person sitting next to me is *touching* me, just by sheer virtue of sitting there, unless that person is related to me. And even then I don't love it, but can deal. This is one of those times - packed flight, large middle seat person keeps shifting around and reminding me that I have nowhere else to go without her touching me. Yuck yuck yuck.
But it's nice to be alone with my thoughts (and the blog, of course) and not have that constant stress of trying to keep an almost-2-year old from pitching a fit or kicking the seat in front of her.
It takes me back to the 3.5 years I spent working for Deloitte Consulting, traveling *every week*. Most of that time was before 9/11 and all the TSA craziness, and I got out just about when it became unbearable. I got really good at traveling - packing light, organizing my laptop bag to optimize for the security check, not checking bags, and doing everything online.
Since then, I can probably count on 2 hands the number of plane trips I've taken. TJ's even less of a fan of air travel than I am, so our vacations are usually road trips. Both of us are serious homebodies, so we tend to burn vacation just staying home for a day or two throughout the year. And I'm cool with that.
In preparation for the Mondo Beyondo class I'm taking, I've been reading other people's posted "life dreams" lists online. Most of them involve extensive traveling adventures. I'm pretty sure mine won't. There are only two trips I MUST do sometime - spend at least 2 weeks in Ireland, and go to the Christmas Market in Munich, Germany.
I'm just not an adventurous soul. I'm definitely not a "backpack across xxx continent and see 10 countries" kind of girl. I'm more of a "find the nearest Four Seasons and park there for a week" traveler. I'm sure readers of the Lonely Planet guides are appalled by this. It's not that I don't have curiosity about the world around me. I do, but just not enough to get out of my comfy home to go see it.
So I mostly end up traveling because an opportunity is presented to me, not because I seek it out. My parents nearly had to force me to go on a trip to France with my high school French class. I just wasn't all that excited about leaving my house, and the known quantity of summer vacation. I'm glad I went, if only because I found out that I might want to go back and see more of the Louvre, and maybe Switzerland some day.
I did learn that I HATE group tours with a flaming passion. I don't want someone else to set my itinerary for me, or tell me how long I can spend at a particular place. I also hate having a packed agenda of sightseeing. That's not relaxing at all. I don't want to check off all the boxes to say I saw all the major attractions. It's not my thing. I'd rather wander around the city on my own pace, see one or two of the main things, and eat the yummy food.
So this is precisely what I did when I was given the opportunity to go to Munich Germany for work in 2003. I spent a week there, but only had work events for 3 days. I spent time napping in my really nice hotel, walked around the small town near the hotel, took the train into the big city a couple of times, did a crapload of shopping at H&M (which wasn't on the West Coast at that time), and ate a LOT of sausages in different shapes and sizes. I practiced my (crappy) German, and got answered in perfect English by the nice and patient people that I met. I saw the Olympic park, the BMW museum, a toy museum, and a really old church in the center of the city. If there were other things I was *supposed* to see, I didn't. It was relaxed, and I really felt like I got a feel for the place. I also realized I dig traveling by myself. Except for when I got on the wrong Express train and just narrowly avoided ending up hundreds of miles from my hotel. (My destination was the last stop before a long ride to some other part of Germany. Yikes.)
In that same job at Microsoft, I also got to travel to Singapore, which I like to call the Las Vegas version of Asia. It's clean and sanitized for your protection. Not being a "get your hands dirty" kind of traveler, I loved it. I'd totally go back there.
So yeah, I'm no world traveler, and I'm cool with that. We may expand our horizons a bit more when BabyT is old enough to remember our trips, but I'm guessing we won't be the "pull kid out of school and travel the world for a year" family.
But right now, I'm ready for Las Vegas, where we'll get to see fake New York, fake Paris, and fake Venice. Hooray!
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
handcrafted life plan - thing 2
Now that I've got my work schedule squared away, and BabyT's summer activities are over (yay!), I've got some time to think about setting some goals and getting some direction in my life.
I've been particularly inspired by Laura, who I went to college with. There's the fact that she manages to blog EVERY DAY, even with a job and twin boys. She's a hugely talented family photographer and has started a business. A while ago, she mentioned taking an online class called Mondo Beyondo, that helps you figure out your big dreams and goals (or even little ones).
I looked it up and thought it sounded interesting, but didn't really feel like I wanted or needed to do that kind of personal exploration. That was during the months where Trillian was most definitely NOT sleeping through the night, and really it was all I could do to get through the day.
But now that I have time, and the aforementioned midlife crisis, and building my Grand Unified Handcrafted Life Plan (tm), it's the perfect opportunity. So I signed up. Class starts Sept 12 and it's all online. It seems like the sort of thing where you get out of it what you put into it, so I'm looking forward to doing some introspection and making this thing work for me.
If you think it might be your kind of thing, you could sign up too - there seems to be space in the class that starts in a couple of weeks. The link below is an affiliate referral thingy so if I get something from you signing up, I'll happily split it with you ;)
I'm excited about this. I don't know much about it, except Laura's endorsement of the class, and some other good reviews online. What I do like is that it seems like I can do this stuff on my own, and don't need to share a ton with others. That's the part I hate most about the "soft skills" type training classes I've taken at work - all the mandatory "sharing" and interacting you're supposed to do with your classmates. Ick.
I look forward to writing a little about what I learn, and what I want to be when I grow up. Watch this space :)
I've been particularly inspired by Laura, who I went to college with. There's the fact that she manages to blog EVERY DAY, even with a job and twin boys. She's a hugely talented family photographer and has started a business. A while ago, she mentioned taking an online class called Mondo Beyondo, that helps you figure out your big dreams and goals (or even little ones).
I looked it up and thought it sounded interesting, but didn't really feel like I wanted or needed to do that kind of personal exploration. That was during the months where Trillian was most definitely NOT sleeping through the night, and really it was all I could do to get through the day.
But now that I have time, and the aforementioned midlife crisis, and building my Grand Unified Handcrafted Life Plan (tm), it's the perfect opportunity. So I signed up. Class starts Sept 12 and it's all online. It seems like the sort of thing where you get out of it what you put into it, so I'm looking forward to doing some introspection and making this thing work for me.
If you think it might be your kind of thing, you could sign up too - there seems to be space in the class that starts in a couple of weeks. The link below is an affiliate referral thingy so if I get something from you signing up, I'll happily split it with you ;)
I'm excited about this. I don't know much about it, except Laura's endorsement of the class, and some other good reviews online. What I do like is that it seems like I can do this stuff on my own, and don't need to share a ton with others. That's the part I hate most about the "soft skills" type training classes I've taken at work - all the mandatory "sharing" and interacting you're supposed to do with your classmates. Ick.
I look forward to writing a little about what I learn, and what I want to be when I grow up. Watch this space :)
Tuesday, August 30, 2011
midlife crisis and the beginnings of a handcrafted life plan
The late night I spent blogging about my work dilemma was the peak of the discontent I've been feeling for a couple of months. I didn't really put a name to it until I had lunch with a coworker last week. She used the term 'midlife crisis', something I had previously dismissed as old bald guys buying flashy red sports cars or taking up with much younger women.
But, as it turns out, it's a perfect explanation for the ick that's been ailing me lately. I've been reading a TON of personal productivity books (my chosen version of self-help, I guess) and don't even really know what I've been looking for in them. Maybe the magic solution on how to squeeze more time out of my days, be less tired, and DO... what? I don't know exactly.
And therein lies the problem. I don't have a focused set of goals. I really like my job but I'm not climbing the ladder. It's not going to lead me to riches, though it's certainly keeping us comfortable and well fed.
I obviously want to be the best mama I can possibly be and am actively working on it, so that's something. But the house is messy and disorganized, I'm still heavier than I need to be, and we spend a lot of money on stuff that doesn't matter.
One of my new coworkers is extremely goal-oriented in his personal life (specifically we've been discussing financial goals, but he's thought about all areas of his life). I'm intrigued by this, and the project management side of me knows that if I can articulate my goals, I will have no trouble figuring out the steps to achieve them. TJ and I have talked about this briefly but are way too busy right now to really sit down and figure out our "life goals". But I put the bug in his ear, so we're both ruminating on it in a background process.
We have some breathing room now, as BabyT turns 2 very soon. She is delightful, sleeps through the night, can tell us what she needs (mostly), so I have time (and energy!) to think about what I want out of life.
So I took care of the first thing on my list today to make progress on handcrafting a life plan for myself. I nervously asked my bosses to reduce my schedule from 30 hours per week to 20. I didn't want to sound like a flake - after all, I've only been on the team for 2 months now, and I'm still ramping up. I also REALLY enjoy the team and the work.
But 30 hours is just WAY too hard with only 2 days of childcare. More childcare is not a solution we really wanted to explore as it's directly in conflict with 'spend as much time with BabyT as possible'. I thought I'd limp along until December and then do something. But I reached my breaking point with a very stressful couple of weeks and decided I needed to start the conversation now.
And wow, the things I've been able to get just because I asked - a part-time schedule in a full-time+ tech company. 2 days a week in the office. A lock on my office door so I could pump there instead of schlepping everything to the new mothers' room. And today, immediate verbal agreement on a 20 hour/week schedule, plus my managers telling me they'd look for ways to help me be successful. Yowza.
So I leave you with this video of our CEO that pretty much sums up how I feel about the company I've been with for 8 years now. Enjoy ;)
But, as it turns out, it's a perfect explanation for the ick that's been ailing me lately. I've been reading a TON of personal productivity books (my chosen version of self-help, I guess) and don't even really know what I've been looking for in them. Maybe the magic solution on how to squeeze more time out of my days, be less tired, and DO... what? I don't know exactly.
And therein lies the problem. I don't have a focused set of goals. I really like my job but I'm not climbing the ladder. It's not going to lead me to riches, though it's certainly keeping us comfortable and well fed.
I obviously want to be the best mama I can possibly be and am actively working on it, so that's something. But the house is messy and disorganized, I'm still heavier than I need to be, and we spend a lot of money on stuff that doesn't matter.
One of my new coworkers is extremely goal-oriented in his personal life (specifically we've been discussing financial goals, but he's thought about all areas of his life). I'm intrigued by this, and the project management side of me knows that if I can articulate my goals, I will have no trouble figuring out the steps to achieve them. TJ and I have talked about this briefly but are way too busy right now to really sit down and figure out our "life goals". But I put the bug in his ear, so we're both ruminating on it in a background process.
We have some breathing room now, as BabyT turns 2 very soon. She is delightful, sleeps through the night, can tell us what she needs (mostly), so I have time (and energy!) to think about what I want out of life.
So I took care of the first thing on my list today to make progress on handcrafting a life plan for myself. I nervously asked my bosses to reduce my schedule from 30 hours per week to 20. I didn't want to sound like a flake - after all, I've only been on the team for 2 months now, and I'm still ramping up. I also REALLY enjoy the team and the work.
But 30 hours is just WAY too hard with only 2 days of childcare. More childcare is not a solution we really wanted to explore as it's directly in conflict with 'spend as much time with BabyT as possible'. I thought I'd limp along until December and then do something. But I reached my breaking point with a very stressful couple of weeks and decided I needed to start the conversation now.
And wow, the things I've been able to get just because I asked - a part-time schedule in a full-time+ tech company. 2 days a week in the office. A lock on my office door so I could pump there instead of schlepping everything to the new mothers' room. And today, immediate verbal agreement on a 20 hour/week schedule, plus my managers telling me they'd look for ways to help me be successful. Yowza.
So I leave you with this video of our CEO that pretty much sums up how I feel about the company I've been with for 8 years now. Enjoy ;)
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