Grumpy Rumbings of the Untenured posted recently about why people whine about their lack of productivity. It got me thinking, because I love discussions on productivity, tips and tricks, and anything related to time-management.
I'm in a slump. I'm getting the bare minimum done around the house. I'm two weeks behind on Project Life (sad!), do laundry when we run out of something (it's usually TJ's socks) and lately our meals have been a lot of assembled leftovers and random fridge-pantry antipasti. I call it that because it sounds better than "I found some freeze dried raspberries, deli ham and some nuts. Let's eat those for lunch."
So right now, I'm not maximizing my productivity. I'm keeping things running (just barely). I've ditched any unnecessary tasks, because I just don't feel like doing them. I've declined some play dates for T because our calendar is pretty full with 3 days of preschool, Little Gym, and Spanish class.
And instead of beating myself up about it, I'm ok with all of that.
I don't think we as Americans, and maybe it's specific to women, cut ourselves enough slack. It seems like there's some kind of reward or goal to being busy ALL THE TIME. We talk about how much we're doing, how our schedules are packed, how we manage to balance work + home + hobbies + kids + marriage + exercise and fall into bed exhausted after our 18 hour days, only to wake up at 6am and start all over again.
Yes, it's a nice compliment when people say "I don't know how you do it." But you know what else is nice? Lounging on the couch with a book while your toddler plays quietly nearby. No playdate, no planned enrichment activity, no frantically trying to complete chores while the kid is occupied. Just quiet, and two people engrossed in something they like.
I've read 6 or 7 books in the last month which is more fiction than I read all of last year.
I haven't organized our digital photos like I planned, or finished the 2011 photo book (or 2010 for that matter!). Our pantry is still a disaster zone and the IKEA space saving shelves I bought are still in their original packaging, unassembled.
But you know what? That's ok. I don't feel like doing that stuff now. My family isn't suffering because I didn't do it. I'm being kind to myself, and true to my One Little Word, REDUCE, by not doing this extra credit work.
Today I sat down and made a necklace *for myself*. I never make stuff for myself - nearly everything goes into the shop. I know I could sell it, but I wanted an extra-long chunky necklace. So this one is mine:
I do have one little tip for those who are feeling slumpy and sluggish. Choose just one or two things you *must* get done (no more than two!). Do those first, or as soon as you can get them out of the way. Then be kind to yourself and allow yourself to do NOTHING the rest of the day. You finished your must-dos, which is an accomplishment in itself. Give yourself credit for that.
Be kind to yourselves, people.