It's been a little over 2 weeks as a family of four and so far it's gone much better than I expected. Most of this is due to the fact that TJ is home so we're pretty much always dividing and conquering.
Things that are going well:
No meltdowns yet, from anyone. I'm pretty surprised, to be honest. I suppose it's too early to get too excited about that, though.
Everyone is fed, clothed, clean and mostly happy. That's a big deal, right? BabyM sleeps in pretty good stretches usually - 2.5 hours up to 8 hours once (!). It's all over the place - sometimes during the day, sometimes at night, but I'll take it.
I'm off the pain meds. I can drive! Things (mostly) don't hurt. I can leave the house on my own! (In theory anyway. In practice I need to take The Baby since I'm the only one who can feed her.)
I'm pretty well-rested. I am one of those people who can nap anytime, almost anywhere. TJ holds down the fort with T since I've got all the night duty with The Baby. (I know, he is so awesome.)
I'm (mostly) accepting that I don't *have* to do anything right now except take care of my family. It's hard for my Type-A self, but I keep reminding myself I have about 20 weeks left at home. That's a long time.
Nursing. So easy this time. And efficient. Loving the snuggly quiet time with BabyM, and also sometimes T keeps us company and "reads" us a book.
Things I'd like to be better:
T is waking multiple times at night and requires soothing. Not surprising considering the circumstances but very rough on TJ who is NOT a napper. I can't help much yet since I'm already up a couple of times with The Baby, but I'm hoping it'll iron out soon. Sort of wondering if cosleeping will fix it - the one night she came to our bed, she slept through *everything*.
I had forgotten how ridiculously hard it is to leave the house with a baby. T has gotten pretty self sufficient - she can put on her own shoes/jacket, use the bathroom and mostly dress herself. We're starting over. It took us 90 minutes to get out the door this morning to go to the Children's Museum. Thankfully we didn't need to be there by a certain time.
BabyM hates the carseat. I don't know why. On the bright side, she almost always falls asleep after a few minutes of driving. But this is the only time she really cries, and it's awful.
I still don't want to make a lot of plans with people. First, it's hard to get out of the house and be somewhere at a certain time, not to mention, I may not want to be awake at that time.
Then I have to figure out the nursing-in-public thing, made more complicated by the fact that I can't find my nursing cover up. The blanket over the shoulder trick is NOT working for me. Also, it's so much easier with the enormous nursing pillow. Sigh.
I miss my big girl. I miss having uninterrupted time with her. I'm
often still asleep when she leaves for preschool in the morning. She is here and awake for such limited hours that I feel like I'm missing out. Sniffle.
Nearly every book-reading session or art project is interrupted because
The Baby needs to eat and right now I'm the only one who can feed her.
Which leads me to Introducing the Bottle. We need to do this,
but I'm afraid. One of the nurses at the hospital gave her a
paci (I know, too early!) and she took to it right away, but it screwed
up her latch for the *entire next day*. I was really upset about this,
thinking we had broken our perfectly-nursing baby. Fortunately, the
following day she was fine and we haven't tried a paci since.
But it would be nice if TJ could feed her occasionally, *and*
she's going to need to take a bottle when I go back to work in March.
Which means I need to start pumping anyway, so that we can stockpile
Not bad for the first few weeks, though. Fingers crossed that the relative peacefulness and Baby Good Sleep will last!