|soon she'll be driving!|
Last fall when we were scoping out preschools for her, we looked at one that required potty training, and since we weren't planning to enroll her for another 6 months, I figured that was a reasonable timeframe to make that happen. I am *so* glad we eliminated that one for other reasons, because I can't imagine the pressure to get her trained before she started. That was nearly 6 months ago, and she's still not close.
I'm definitely in the minority of parents around here - most with daughters have them at least day trained by the time they're 3. Her preschool does a great job of helping with this, and the peer pressure definitely works in our favor. While she doesn't stay dry all day there, she's doing pretty well at telling her teachers when she needs to go and participates in the group potty breaks. She clearly knows what she needs to do and has demonstrated she *can* do it.
But at home? No bueno. She refuses. Pitches a fit. DOES.NOT.WANT. It's clearly a control thing, and not a battle I want to join. So we have a few regular potty times (this girl loves her rules and routines), she (mostly) changes her own wet pull-up diapers and we're waiting this one out.
For the record, she says when her new baby sister is born, THEN she'll use the potty all the time. It would not surprise me if she keeps her word. She decided 2 months ago she wanted to be a ladybug for Halloween and hasn't wavered since. She said in June she wanted a Pocoyo-themed birthday and is sticking to it.
This is the same child that didn't walk until 19.5 months, and she got good at it in a week. One day I think she just decided it was time and started walking on her own. Now she runs and even jumps (which she also did on her own schedule, not the one on BabyCenter). The same was true of dropping that last night feeding at 14 months, switching to a straw cup, and sleeping in her own Big Girl Bed. When *she* was ready, it just happened.
I think this is the Universe's way of teaching me patience, which is definitely not my strong suit. There is nothing I can do to speed up her development or make her *want* to do this. I've finally learned just to wait and see. She'll work it out. We'll continue to offer to help and give her the choice to try it out, but with no pressure. As a project manager who likes deadlines and completed projects, this is painful.
But not forcing the issue takes away the pressure to "just get it done already", and doesn't create a power struggle between us. Obviously I don't want to wait forever, but it's too early to get stressed out about it. Even a lab rat can learn from past experience, right?
So yeah, for a while, we're going to have 2 kids in diapers. I can live with that.