Monday, May 06, 2013

Love and happiness

Yesterday we went to a wedding.  This was the first one we've attended in 7 years, unbelievably. I guess we're just in that phase of life where everyone is already married, has decided not to get married, or elopes.

T was very excited about it - we got her a new dress and matching hair clips, told her she could wear her dress-up black shoes, and said she could dance.  I prepped her for the part where she would need to sit quietly and listen to the ceremony.

The invitation said "aloha attire" and BabyM was the only one who had anything vaguely resembling that.  TJ and I settled on ocean blue, and T's dress had flamingos, which I figured was close.

we honestly didn't plan this level of matchiness!

It was a perfect day for a wedding by the lake.  Both girls were in remarkably good spirits despite interrupted naps.  The room was filled with love and good wishes for the happy couple, as all weddings are.

But this wedding was different from all the others we've attended.  This one had two brides, who have been together for 14 years and married for 10, but are only now able to make it legal.  It was an honor to be invited, and I am *so* grateful to M and T for the opportunity for their wedding to be the first one my girls experienced.

T asks a lot of questions, and yesterday she asked *why* people get married.  I told her that people get married when they find someone they love very much and want to spend the rest of their lives with that person.

I love that T never got the memo about marriage being only between a man and a woman.  I hope that when she and her sister are grown up, they'll be incredulous that it was such a big deal for two women or two men to get married, just like I am still surprised that my own marriage would have been illegal in some states a few decades before I was born.

As expected, we had to leave a bit early due to missed naps and early bedtimes, but it was a wonderful, perfect, lovely way to end our weekend. 

12 comments:

  1. That's so beautiful. I love her innocence :)

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  2. Such a beautiful family photo...and T is one bright little girl...she comes by it naturally.

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  3. Great family photo and post!

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  4. Love your family portrait. So glad your friends were able to marry in a way that I took for granted. The law has just changed in NZ so that gay and lesbian couples can be married. In the past they had a civil union which was similar but now they have exactly the same rights as everyone else. Makes me proud to be a Kiwi.

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    1. Yes! I think it's important that it's the same!

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  5. Gorgeous photo. How lucky to be able to celebrate that moment with your friends! Congratulations to them!

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  6. Awesome. Love (between anyone) is always a good thing. :) Congrats to your friends!

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  7. Yes, gorgeous family pic!

    My marriage would also have been illegal not so long ago actually.... when we first got together, we received many "looks".... :(

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    1. Ugh. We're lucky to have not gotten many looks thanks to where we live. But if we lived in a different part of the US, we'd definitely get looks.

      And I realized how rare it is for us to get a spontaneous family pic - of course we get them in our professional shoots, but rarely at events.

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  8. What a great day and sweet photo! Also love the values your children are growing up with :)

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  9. Here's to creating a more tolerant, loving world, one wedding at a time. :) Love this!

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  10. Beautiful photo, sounds like a fun wedding too!

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